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Old People Don’t Suck!

When I was younger, I use to wonder why “old people” were so rude and selfish. I just bounced around with my happy-go-lucky attitude and snarled back at them with a smirk when they’d get rude over something that I deemed silly. I can remember passing it off as jealousy of my youth. In my mind, old people sucked! As I thought all these things, and voiced a little of it too, I never considered their side of it. I never considered the reasons that they did the things they did or acted the way they acted.

Well, I’m not exactly “old” yet but I’m getting there. I’ll be 41 this year and that puts me about 20 years ahead of my original “Old Folks are Rude” discovery. I’m sure my opinion of this will evolve even more but as of now, I am beginning to understand. I kind of understand now that I was being selfish and rude. It was me that sucked! It was my heavy gas pedal foot and my energy level. It was me being inconsiderate of other people wanting to be safe on the road rather than just getting where they were going in the quickest possible manner. It was me being in too big of a hurry to wait for someone to read a label on something in the grocery store and brushing past them like they had no right to be there. It was me, that bounced attitude off these people and they were just reflecting it back. It was me all along!

And now that I’m getting older, I understand that sometimes “old timers” have just had enough! We (I say that loosely..) just don’t give a shit! Why should we? I’m gonna stand there and read that label because, dang it, carbs matter these days! I’m going to drive near the speed limit (for now anyway) because not only do I have someone in the car with me most of the time, but I understand that I also hold the lives of other drivers in my hands. I’m going to walk as slow as I need too because by cracky, my feet and legs hurt bad enough when I get out of bed in the morning and I’m not going to make it worse! Why should I hurt myself for these heathen whipper snappers?!??!

So be warned, children! (…and by children, I men anyone under 30-ish these days) I’m rude, selfish and inconsiderate and I don’t apologize for it!*

 

*This is what I want to say so badly it hurts, but the truth is, I’m a doormat. I suck! I want so badly to be rude, selfish and inconsiderate but I always fall short. I really, really want to not give a shit! …but I do. I just can’t help it. So feel free to crash into me with your cart in the grocery store and cut me off in traffic. I’ll smile and wave at you…then go home and cry in the shower…


Styles of Thinking

Eastern Washington University has an article on their website called, “15 Styles of Distorted Thinking” and unfortunately I fit into most of those 15 categories. Who among us can say that their actions at some point haven’t fit into most of these styles. This article is a part of their section on stress management and according to the site, recognizing these patterns of thinking can help you to understand the things that cause stress. These are simply ways of thinking to avoid.

I would assume, in a perfect world, a person might recognize after reading this article that they must be “Catastrophizing” a situation and if they just stop doing that, their stress level will dramatically decrease. What if there is an impending catastrophe? (Yes, I realize the very wording of the previous sentence is Catastrophizing) If so, a person would be denying their inborn sense of fight or flight in an attempt to ward off stress. Essentially a person would then sit and wait for the catastrophe to happen. Like falling and not stretching out your arms to catch your fall.

Since I was a small child, I was told to put myself in the other person’s shoes and think about how they must be feeling or thinking. In a sense, that is the idea conveyed by “Mind Reading” in this article. I’d like to believe that the article refers to an extreme version of this, where the mind reader doesn’t leave room for the chance that the observed person could possibly be thinking or feeling differently than they would. In my opinion that would actually be classed as something a little more severe than a stress point.

Most of these styles could easily fit into a diagnosis much larger than a simple stress point. That statement reminds me of another article that I recently read concerning an experiment with sane people willingly being admitted as patients in psychiatric hospitals. It was called the Rosenhan Experiment. These people pretended to hear voices and such and were diagnosed with psychiatric illnesses and admitted to several hospitals in various states in the US. After being admitted, they suddenly stopped hearing the sounds and voices and reverted back to “themselves.” Several of these people were kept in the hospitals for months and all were forced to admit that they had one mental illness or another and agree to take medications before they could be released. After these patients were released, doctors and nurses were asked to find fake patients in their hospitals. These healthcare workers were unaware that none of these patients were still in their care. The caregivers then proceeded to find a large number of patients in their care that seemed to have faked their conditions.

Thank goodness the days of lobotomies are gone. I don’t think any of us would be safe and I wonder how many of us would be classed as sane at the end of the day.


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